Recently I’ve found myself watching “Workin’ Moms” on Netflix and I can relate to so many of the storylines in the show. If you are a mom who works full time, I highly suggest you check it out. In all seriousness though, how do parents do it ALL while still maintaining their sanity, dignity, personal hygiene, etc, and look “put together” enough to work full time? I’ll tell you one thing for sure; it’s not from the (lack of) sleep we are getting!
My mom was a stay at home mom her whole life. That was a different generation and a different time. It is hard to survive with a one-income household these days. When my husband and I decided to have children, it was not even a thought in my mind to stay at home with them, past maternity leave. Most of my friends thought I was nuts because I don’t have family nearby to help, but if you know me, you know my personality doesn’t suit staying in one place.
Fast forward to today, I have two kids under 4 and work full time. I also volunteer with several non-profits in my “spare” time (yes, I still have spare time). You’re probably wondering a.) are you crazy or b.) how do you do it all? The answer is simple: organization!
If you ask my mom, even when I was a toddler, I was color coordinating my stuffed animals in my room. I guess you could say I’ve always been organized. I was the student in class that took on the big class projects, the worker at my job that was always asking for more to do, and at home I was always cleaning and organizing. That translated to my life with kids. I plan the week ahead on a whiteboard at home including meals. I lay out clothes and pajamas for the next day for the boys. I have a color-coded Outlook calendar that would make most people cross their eyes. In my house, I’m the planner and our entire life is a well-oiled machine. We get to where we need to be every day, I have contingency plans in the back of mind (a-hem sick kids) and I’m always one step ahead. Stay out of this mom’s way!
I believe that every couple needs one person to be a planner to get through the day. I’m not saying everyone needs color-coded Outlook calendars, but there needs to be some semblance of a plan. Do you need to get to that little Spencer’s birthday party on time? No, but it’s the polite thing to do, and it teaches your children that timeliness matters. And they carry that trait with them later in life. You as parents are raising part of the future generation and your organization translates to their organization. And let’s face it, we’d like the future generation to be awesome, wouldn’t we?